I’ve been thinking about fear lately as well, and the repercussions it has in our lives.
Last night I woke up thinking about something that made me angry, and couldn’t sleep again until I got it on paper and came up with an action plan. (Sometimes anger is also a response to fear, albeit in a different form.)
I’ve noticed this year’s been “scattered” for me as well, and I’m planning to change it. I know focus is one of the first steps of doing so. (Prayer always helps a lot as well—it’s a natural response to fear already and it helps me feel organized and calm enough to step away from the lower-brain thinking into problem-solving.)
Thanks for writing this! Looking forward to hearing more about this journey in the future.
And when anger is a response to boundaries being crossed, the best thing to do is clarify what those boundaries are and come up with a plan of action if/when they're crossed again... rather than acting out in anger and ruining relationships in the process.
I’ve been thinking about fear lately as well, and the repercussions it has in our lives.
Last night I woke up thinking about something that made me angry, and couldn’t sleep again until I got it on paper and came up with an action plan. (Sometimes anger is also a response to fear, albeit in a different form.)
I’ve noticed this year’s been “scattered” for me as well, and I’m planning to change it. I know focus is one of the first steps of doing so. (Prayer always helps a lot as well—it’s a natural response to fear already and it helps me feel organized and calm enough to step away from the lower-brain thinking into problem-solving.)
Thanks for writing this! Looking forward to hearing more about this journey in the future.
Big connection between anger and fear for sure. I think you solve it the same way, too.
Don’t want to be angry with your kids?
Focus on the relationship.
Don’t want to be angry with your dog?
Focus on training new behaviors.
Don’t want to be angry at work?
Focus on doing the job instead of thinking about the aspects you don’t like.
And when anger is a response to boundaries being crossed, the best thing to do is clarify what those boundaries are and come up with a plan of action if/when they're crossed again... rather than acting out in anger and ruining relationships in the process.
Focus on clarifying and enforcing the boundary, not on punishing the person.